How to give up the Grudge and keep going?

I saw this article on one of the magazine I read and I'd like to share it with my readers. It says that these are the things that we can do in order to give up the grudge and get going.

• ITEMIZED INJUSTICES. List the issues that weigh on you. Divide the list into things you can change and things you cannot yet change. This will help you focus productively.


• IT'S NOT ALL OR NOTHING. "Does this injustice have to affect all areas of my life every second?' The answer better be, "Definitely not." Nor is unfairness in all ways a disadvantage-unless you define it as such.


• MAKE A CHOICE. "Can I still work to build a meaningful life in spite of this unfairness and disadvantages?" If you have trouble saying yes, realize you are making a choice-by refusing to get over something you cannot change.


• QUESTION YOUR ANGER. If you find yourself grieving excessively about an injustice, stop yourself and ask, "Will the situation change by my being upset?"


• MIND YOUR LANGUAGE. Instead of saying, "This is unfair," say, "This is annoying." It is what it is. This verbal shift will help you keep perspective.


• WORK ON SELF-DIRECTION. Tune into how you want to act in certain circumstances-in spite of unfairness.


• IT'S ALWAYS RELATIVE. Ask yourself, "How much will this particular injustice matter in the grand scheme of life?"